Before I went through my cousnelling training I often wondered why the world around was angry, apart from the fact that the individuals have ‘things’ going on in their lives that they could not necessarily manage. I learned in a session on one occassion that an individual had such a build up of different emotions buried over nearly 20 years that he simply could not stop the leakage and presented as an angry person. In fact, looking beneath the anger, which had driven a wedge between him and those around him, he realised that there was so that he did not realise was there for him. We talked through his challenges and he came to accept that those things that had been buried were simply coming out, later down the line and that he could not simply keep them buried. We worked through the anger iceberg and the principle that the anger is the only part people see because they either can’t or don’t have the ability to look beneath the surface at the other content that is there for the person who displays the anger. If someone around you is angry, shows signs of not being able to manage, please don’t judge the anger but actually sit with, there might be other stuff going on for them and that your judgement may be the total opposite of what that person needs right then. You may not be able to do anything to help them with that but you surely could be the person that does not make it worse. It may be a worry to experience anger, it may frighten you or be something you have never experienced before, anger is not always loud and overt, it may also be passive and calm and these individuals may still have the feelings beneath the surface, they simply present them differently. I have added the Anger Iceberg to see what feelings might be going on for them.